7 Habits of Magnetic People

After spending nearly three decades on this planet, some of the most fascinating people I have encountered are those whom I will refer to in this article as "magnetic." You've probably encountered a few in your lifetime. They aren't necessarily the richest, the best-looking, or the smartest, but somehow they have an incredible knack for attracting other people to them. They are the ones we gravitate to, the ones we want to be around all the time. We seek people like this to befriend, hire, date, and solicit advice. Though we can't quite put our finger on it, there's just something about them that draws us to them. Through my interactions with magnetic people over the years, I've come to notice certain traits that they all seem to have in common. Though I strive to model my own behavior after theirs, somehow I always seem to fall short. Anyway, here are my observations:

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1. They are organized. I'm not necessarily referring to color-coded closets and detailed checklists, but rather, the general notion of having a plan for each day and seeing it through, even if that plan involves nothing more than having fun and relaxing while on vacation. Magnetic people don't wander aimlessly through life. They understand its fleeting and fragile nature, and try to make sure their time on Earth is well spent. They know what they want to accomplish every day, and their energy is devoted to making those things  happen.

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2. They deal with life's troubles gracefully.  Life has a funny way of throwing us curve balls, but magnetic people seem to deal with them better than most other people. For example, when too many things pile up at work and come to a head at the same time, magnetic people take control. They assess problems quickly and efficiently, and then propose solutions, all without without yelling at anyone or having an anxiety attack themselves. I fear I will never learn to manage my stress the way they can. These people are absolute gems to have in your life when things go haywire. Their steadfast level-headed nature grounds us and helps us re-direct our energy to productiveness, instead of to freaking out.


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3. They care what some people think.  In my opinion, the notion that we should not care what anyone thinks does not a successful person make. While trying to please everyone is a pointless, sisyphean endeavor guaranteed to make you miserable, it is important to consider the feelings of those who play important roles in our lives. For example, if you run a business, you need to be mindful of what your clients think of you. If you are in a relationship, you should be concerned with how your partner feels. Magnetic people seem to find the perfect balance between channeling their efforts toward trying to please the people that really matter, and letting go of that concern with respect to the opinions of those who don't. 

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4. They get along with all types of people. You can put magnetic people into any social setting, and they easily get along with others. They have the uncanny ability to instantly perceive the personality, values, and even sore spots of other people. No matter who they are dealing with, magnetic people can almost always find some common ground upon which they can relate to someone, and they almost never offend anyone. Furthermore, magnetic people themselves are not easily offended, because they understand that feeling insulted by something is a matter of choice, and often a waste of time and energy.

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5. They keep their word. One of the most highly valued traits in our society is dependability. Magnetic people do not let others down. If they commit to something, even if they are very inconvenienced by it, they will follow through anyway. They take their obligations very seriously, therefore they are often highly-sought-after as employees. On the flip side, since they value trustworthiness, a magnetic person expects others to honor their promises as well, having little tolerance for flakiness. 
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6. They are comfortable in their own skin. Magnetic people often have high self-esteem. They tend to be tastefully confident; rarely will you encounter one who is insecure or embarrassed about the way they look or how much money they make. However, though they are very self-assured, they are also very comfortable admitting when they don't know something and will readily ask for help. Instead of making them feel insecure, their openness with regard to their weaknesses only endears them more to others. 

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7. They choose to see the best in other people. We don't always relate to the behavior and choices of others, but instead of gossiping and criticizing, magnetic people try to find things they like about any given person. They understand that everyone, no matter how different or misunderstood, has something positive to offer the world. Magnetic people simply choose to focus on a person's best qualities, thereby helping others view them in a more favorable light too.

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